feelings

Accepting Criticism

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Tonight my Step Dad said to me ‘your only problem is is that you lack in confidence!’ I titled this accepting criticism, but at the same time he wasn’t actually criticising to be mean just telling me something if that makes sense.

Obviously I already know I lack in confidence, but to hear someone else say it out loud for some reason really bothers me, but I will also try and take it on board and work on myself.

Accepting criticism and accepting compliments are both difficult, to me anyway, but all we can do is learn from them and try and improve on them.

I for one know I haven’t been myself lately, for me is a mixture of missing my Nan, therapy last year, then the world turning upside down, not seeing anyone but my Mum for three months and I still haven’t seen some of my mates for weeks and weeks.

I have found this year extremely overwhelming and it has definitely made my anxiety worse but all we can do is find ways to adapt and look after ourselves daily.

I have had years where my confidence has been in a good place like when working abroad, I know I’ll get those times back again.

Better days are coming!

Journalling

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Current thoughts…

What’s your view on it?

How long do you do it for?

How many journals do you keep?

Do you enjoy it?

Does it help?

I’ve have had a few of them but I’ve never properly stuck to one.

Today I actually picked mine up and wrote in it, not for long, only did like a page or so, then I watched a couple of ted talks and yeah I feel slightly better.

I just struggle to actually stick to writing in one.

But I’m going to try, I desperately need to get out of this weird funk phase that I’ve found myself in.

Even if I only write a page or two a day about how I’m feeling about myself and life JUST GET IT DOWN!

Like I always say ‘the only person that can fix you is yourself!’ I need to take my own advice more often and get shit done.

Thought I’d leave some tips that help me on my bad days!

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Interesting, I’ve read a lot or heard people tell me ‘you have to be happy with yourself before you can make someone else happy!’

This has now made me re think a little bit..

What’s your opinion?

Because of my past and ptsd I struggle to let people in or to believe I deserve happiness.

I know I’ll get there sooner or later when the time is right. I’ll know it when it is I guess (I hope) not going to lie I do however worry that I genuinely don’t know how to let someone in and have already pushed people away because of that.

But now I actually belive by telling a person who’s already suffering that they aren’t lovable unless they love themselves is harmful.

Some people are also holding onto traumas and experiences from the past that we aren’t awear of.

It took me a good few years to realise my own and how much it had actually broken me.

We need to stop believing that you need to be happier with yourself, because you could meet someone at the most unexpected of times, or at the wrong time in life who might lift your spirits up in a way you didn’t think was possible.

I’ve probably missed or pushed people away because I believed I had to love myself in order to make someone else happy. But that’s something I’ve got to figure out.

This has really made me question things though.